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May 28, 2012

Dealing with the knots!

Dear Diary,
Here is the thing we need to first acknolwedge the multitudes of hair types ( remember there are lots of in-between textures);

1.some are extremly kinky, that is very curly and hard to run your fingers through

courtesy of http://www.beauty-and-the-bath.com/black-children-hairstyles.html

2. some just have very tight curls

courtesy of http://www.blackhealthzone.com

3. larger very visible curls

4. big round curls

There is no hard and fast rule, every body has to try and test whats out there till we find what works just right for us. Whatever the type though, there is one thing we all have to do; DETANGLE!
I dreaded that after every single hair wash, the pulling and brushing and combing felt like every know was pulling out my hair scalp!
So here are a few tips that my mum used and that i now used to help minimize pain and simplify the process.
1. Leave in conditioner..
oh yes! this is magical for me..as a child the "Just for Me- Leave in Conditioner" worked wonders. the trick is to put it on your hair right after the shampoo when your hair is still soaking wet and thenleave it for 5-10mins. Then use a large tooth comb to detangle, whilst hair is still wet and dripping in conditioner.

2. The Comb.
the comb used to detangle has to be the wide tooth kind, infact the wider the better. This kind worked best for me from birth till adulthood:

3. Partition
In order to detangle properly it is easier to partition the hair into four sections ..i just find that it helps when the hair is in smaller bits to comb through..

once youve done that, you can choose to rinse some of the conditioner off of just leave it as is..Afro or mixed afro hair styles tend to last for up to a week so you get the bonus of not having to fix it every morning.Whatever you decide make sure you do something with it, plaits, braids, in hair bands, just done leave the hair out to dry out naturally because then your knots will reappear before you can say, hello In order to style it is important that the hair is clean and oiled. growing up these are the products I used..all available on amazon by the way.

hair grease: Dax Hair Pommade & Olive oil lotion

once the hair is oiled try styling and see how you get on.

Have a look at a great simple article on the subject : http://www.blackhealthzone.com/how-care-black-childs-hair

Thats it for today!

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Introducing....Me! :D

Dear Diary,

its day one! I have lived my whole life learning to love and care for my hair. My mum who is of mixed ethnicity did the very same thing and crucially made sure i could do my OWN hair since I was 7. I hope to do the same for my children. This process has been long and a learning process. I wanted to share a space for people who have babies or children with Afro hair who are struggling with it or parents with mixed ethnicity children as 'hair knowledge' has to be learned from somewhere. So if your mama didn't teach ya hopefully our diary will be the start of your learning process! :)

So there we are in the picture, my brother an I, lovely african brown skin babies, however my and his hair tell the secret that somewhere in our african heritage, we got some European and even a little dash of Indian! whilst living in Africa, there was nothing quite like going to the hairdresser to be told, "gosh there is something not quite right about your hair". What they meant was, my hair didnt have enough kinky-ness to it. My hair is in the middle like so many others, it is curly, voluminous, and soft. It is not typical and has a mind of its own , instead of taming it we just have to learn how to let it grow right so here goes..Below are more hair pictures; I grew and the evolution of my hair progressed.

Here a 7 year old me, all natural, detangled and put in hair bands

After a few years of struggling with relaxer and other illadvisable products, i cut it all off and nurtured a fro:

Here it is the same year when it is just washed and oiled:

The longer it got, the curlier my hair got..a few for you to see:

then I deceided to lock my hair, but my hair was so soft it came out in twists..

but i persevered and finally they came out great!

And now I have full lenght locs

So as you can see it has been quite a journey. I will do my best to update often with styles and products, tips and techniques for caring for you child or child to be's natural hair. i hope you will all follow, share and give feedback.

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