Nov 15, 2014
Nov 7, 2014
My answer is normally, "before sweden i lived in London" ..confusing them even more but lately i get the question more and more so i say "my heritage is french and west african".. this is true i was born in nigeria, mums malian/french..dads gambian so there you go.
Now here lies the problem. .due to miscommunication,misinformation, media exaggeration and ignorance in general, as soon as i say west africa. .somewhere in the response i hear that word.."ebola"
Concern is one thing..empathy excellent. .general stigma not acceptable.
Generalised statements that ive heard..when i say im from west africa are not ok..i realise the panic and fear people feel around this very serious disease but let me put it this way. .once we begin to look at all West Africans as potentially sick ..How exactly do you want me to feel.
I wanted to take my little girl to meet her great grand ma (over 90yrs old) in Mali over Christmas . There has been ONE Ebola case found in mali. The professionals i spoke to about this trip basically told me that even though the risk of getting infected is very very slim once we come back we maybe subjected to several tests before we are allowed back into sweden.
As a teacher i may have to stay home an extra 14days to ensure that i do not contaminate others..
And my favorite. . 'People would be uncomfortable around you once you come back'
Nov 3, 2014
3 hours..thats all i get per day with my baby girl since i started working full time.
Yes i sat and actually counted it out.
I found myself almost jogging home from work to make it home faster.
I make excuses to delay her bedtime.
I want to squeeze every minute from what ive got.
I work as a teacher in Scandinavia so i know, for sure, my hours are really great in comparison to the average mummy , and yet still...
When i leave in the morning she is asleep.
When im done working, we make dinner together (maximising our time together), most of the time she is in her highchair with mini pots and pans, tasting the food mummy is putting together whilst skyping grandma or grandma, both a continent away.
Once yumyums are ready..its dinner, bathtime and then its 8pm! She has to go to sleep.
The only variations that occur are at times. .we HAVE to watch mickeys play house before bathtime because the Hot Dog dance is good for the Soul.
At times we also skype whilst shes in the bath so she can splish splash a little longer.
And then she sleeps.
Never mind that i have 100+ unanswered emails, 3 unheard voice mails f, friends i neglect, birthdays ive missed. My time in the day isnt enough.
I cant believe in an entire day i spend nurturing and teaching other children i give my daughter 3 hours of my presence and focus.